Be connected strong and happy.. banish the list of excuses in 2012
Well my dear readers, at this time of the year, everyone is busy making lists. Lists of what they did last year, and lists of what they hope for etc etc.
If there is one big thing on my list for 2012 and yours too I hope) It is to banish forever that list of excuses that makes us such anti social beings.
Today I am going to share with you item 7 from my Kit for Uptight White People. Item 7 is “the list of Excuses”. The Kit is my final masters Project in X Disciplinary Design at COFA UNSW, and I devised the concept, wrote, designed and illustrated the book.
The underpinning reasoning behind this kit comes from the anecdotes collected from the many migrants that I know, that all seem to have a recurring theme. This is that us anglos are often perceived as being unfriendly, uptight, and difficult.
Here is the related anecdote:
My Italian friends the Racioppis have the same issues as all of us, yet like most migrant households, they never make excuses. If they are stressed, they come together anyway, which often helps them to relieve their stress. Sometimes, in fact often, they argue and fight, but that clears the air, and avoids the bottling up of harmful stress. Unlike us white people, they don’t hold onto their anger and grudges, all of which are quickly forgiven. They don’t seem to feel uncomfortable with confrontation.
And here is a specially devised experiment to help you develop better more inclusive habits! Why not give it a try?
To those Prone to Listmaking
The pick up the phone experiment.
Think of someone with whom you have not made contact for at least twelve months. No matter what the reason. Maybe you fell out, maybe you have been busy. But overall it was a valuable relationship. Relationships can change over time if they are nurtured properly, So pick up the phone, and say “Hello, it’s me calling, how is life? I am sorry I have been off the radar.” If it helps, give yourself some ice to slide out on, and make an excuse that you have been busy. It takes two to tango, and through becoming the “hero”, you are being a hero. You are helping to create social capital. which makes people feel connected, strong and happy.
If you like this idea, you can see the rest of the kit online at
Or you can purchase it here in Melbourne at Metropolis Books, Brunswick Bound, or Brunswick Street Books.
Or online at Blurb : http://www.blurb.com/my/book/detail/2597718
Or email me! I would love to hear your thoughts and ideas!!